1. “This too shall pass” is a dangerous thought.Focus on how bad an asshole makes you feel now, not on how the sting will fade over time. Otherwise, you will lose your motivation to escape from or bring down that jerk.
2. Get out now.Your physical and mental health is too important. You’ve got to stop the damage immediately, even if you suffer a temporary career setback. And once you’ve escaped the abuse, you will have a clear mind, and can make more rational decisions.
3. Fight fire with fire.Don’t be a wimp or doormat. The best defense against most assholes is to respond with even stronger anger, insults, and disrespect than they heap on you.
4. The upside of assholes is underrated.Exposure to disrespectful and demeaning jerks makes you tougher, teaches you what not to do, and improves your asshole management skills.
5. Ignore rumors and gossip.If you want to learn if a potential new boss, workplace, or customer will treat you like dirt, rely on solid evidence, not stories from biased insiders.
6. Trust your gut.If you believe that someone is an asshole, you are probably right. Watch them closely, look for all the ways that they demean and disrespect you and others.
7. Revenge is sweet.Payback can make you feel more powerful and less angry—even if it doesn't stop your tormentors’ bad behavior or they can’t connect you to the vengeful act.
8. Don’t encourage their bad behavior.If you are plagued by jerks who ignore or insult you, or bad mouth you behind your back, don’t try to win them over with flattery or favors. And, whatever you do, don’t let them do you any favors. They will just screw you in the end.
9. The system can help.Most organizations have now pledged to stomp out bullying, and many are required to do so by law. It is often smart to report a suspected asshole to your boss, human resources, or the legal department.
10. Don’t believe it when an asshole calls YOU an asshole.They are just trying to undermine your confidence; don’t blame yourself for their ugly behavior.